Although I have never been shy about sharing my experiences, I have largely kept my true feelings to myself. I’ve decided that for myself and for other women who are in my shoes, I need to break the silence of infertility. This is how I really feel…
“How did you get into that?!” is usually the first question I get asked once someone finds out that I was a surrogate mother. This closely followed by, “…and you did it how many times??”
We had the option to go for the less expensive, less complicated, and less promising, but were advised to go for the gusto because I had no eggs. In addition, my husband’s sperm count was inconsistent which added our potential problems conceiving. So we did it! We started the process for IVF with donor egg, and we never looked back.
As I approached my mid-30s, conversations with my friends became more and more about the risks and difficulties of having children after the age of 35. Suddenly something clicked and my age became real and unavoidable. The desire that had always been a bit lacking finally kicked in, and I knew that I wanted to have children of my own.
Unwanted, unsolicited advice is something that we have all fallen victim to at some point in our lives. It is something that we all get from time to time, and it often comes during periods of time when we are experiencing life-changing events.