The holidays—that time of year filled with cheer, shopping, cooking and attending gatherings. Yet for those struggling with infertility, this season also brings a hyper focus on the everyday reminders of that pain. The simple joy of seeing a child visit Santa or opening presents can be heart-wrenching when every child reminds you of your struggle with infertility.
Since her experience with recurrent pregnancy loss, Jaime feels that she has become a better doctor. She remembers that before her own experiences, she never quite understood the grief her patients felt when losing a pregnancy at such an early gestational age.
Although I have never been shy about sharing my experiences, I have largely kept my true feelings to myself. I’ve decided that for myself and for other women who are in my shoes, I need to break the silence of infertility. This is how I really feel…
“How did you get into that?!” is usually the first question I get asked once someone finds out that I was a surrogate mother. This closely followed by, “…and you did it how many times??”
We had the option to go for the less expensive, less complicated, and less promising, but were advised to go for the gusto because I had no eggs. In addition, my husband’s sperm count was inconsistent which added our potential problems conceiving. So we did it! We started the process for IVF with donor egg, and we never looked back.