A Motherly guide to: Getting in shape before you get pregnant

Moderate exercise before pregnancy is associated with many positive outcomes for mom and baby, including a boost in fertility rates, less pain while pregnant andlower weight gains during pregnancy. And women whose weight is in a healthy range before pregnancy actually help to lower the risk of serious complications in their baby, with decreased risk of neural-tube or heart defects, among others.

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My Unmet Desire To Have Second Child Doesn’t Mean I Am Ungrateful For What I do Have

Today, I learned my daughter’s best friend at school is going to be a big brother. His mom is also 38 and shared her ultrasound pictures with me. Since my daughter found out about her friend becoming a big brother, she puts her hands on my belly and says she wants a baby sister. I tell her I would love that, too.

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What to Say—and What Not to Say—to Someone Going Through IVF

If you have difficulty conceiving, it’s comforting to know that in vitro fertilization is an option. That said, no one ever actually wants to go through IVF. The process involves money, hormones, self-administered shots (often in your butt or stomach), and a lot of emotional highs and lows. And it doesn’t help that people don’t really know how to act around you when you’re going through it.

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