But when an unexpected journey through infertility became my reality, my professional and personal worlds were turned upside down. After two failed embryo transfers with five cycles of IVF and one egg donor cycle, I began to question everything I thought I knew.
…All I heard was “melanoma”. I understood it was the spot on my thigh. I understood I was going to have to have additional surgery. Everything else was a blur.
If you have difficulty conceiving, it’s comforting to know that in vitro fertilization is an option. That said, no one ever actually wants to go through IVF. The process involves money, hormones, self-administered shots (often in your butt or stomach), and a lot of emotional highs and lows. And it doesn’t help that people don’t really know how to act around you when you’re going through it.
With more resources about parenting and pregnancy available than ever before, it’s easy to get lost in a mountain of information about what happens after you learn you’re expecting, from signing up for birthing classes to choosing colors for the nursery to browsing baby-name books.
Many infertile patients, are erroneously advised by their physicians to first try IUIseveral times before resorting to IVF. Additionally many misguided insurance providers often, purely for economic reasons, require that infertile female enrollees who have at least 1 patent Fallopian tube, first undergo several attempts at IUI before doing IVF.