Today, I learned my daughter’s best friend at school is going to be a big brother. His mom is also 38 and shared her ultrasound pictures with me. Since my daughter found out about her friend becoming a big brother, she puts her hands on my belly and says she wants a baby sister. I tell her I would love that, too.
But when an unexpected journey through infertility became my reality, my professional and personal worlds were turned upside down. After two failed embryo transfers with five cycles of IVF and one egg donor cycle, I began to question everything I thought I knew.
…All I heard was “melanoma”. I understood it was the spot on my thigh. I understood I was going to have to have additional surgery. Everything else was a blur.
If you have difficulty conceiving, it’s comforting to know that in vitro fertilization is an option. That said, no one ever actually wants to go through IVF. The process involves money, hormones, self-administered shots (often in your butt or stomach), and a lot of emotional highs and lows. And it doesn’t help that people don’t really know how to act around you when you’re going through it.
Surrogacy is a method of assisted reproduction for people who are unable to conceive due to medical complications or other reasons. It is an agreement where a woman agrees to carry a pregnancy for a couple or a person, who will become the baby’s parent after birth.