When discussing my situation with other black women, we all had almost the same experience. The experience of no one to talk to, shame, depression, and anxiety. We all knew of a handful of people who never had children, but never knew why. We all knew that there was an unspoken rule about infertility and that it was never to be talked about. I honestly think that in order to break the silence and no longer make infertility a taboo subject in the black community, we need to have raw and gritty conversations amongst ourselves
I will always feel the pain of my losses, especially my last. However, I can’t forget how fortunate I am. I’m incredibly grateful to be a wife, to have a rock of a husband, my parents who are always there to help support me, and friends who are so genuinely concerned for my well being. But no matter what, I have faith and I believe—that one day, some way, somehow, we will be a family of three.
A female is born with 1-2 million eggs. At puberty she has 300,000-500,000,at age 37 she has 25,000, and age 51 she has 1,000 eggs left. Most women are no longer able to become naturally pregnant in their mid-40s.
Founder, Innovator, Facilitator, Educator, and Mom, Marna Gatlin has many titles. Her knowledge and passion are captivating as she works tirelessly to educate, advocate, and provide support for families touched by or considering egg donation.
Last week I was contacted by a health reporter to discuss the recent birth of Gabrielle Union and Dwyane Wade’s daughter. Because they have publicly shared a lot about their struggles to conceive, I expected the topic to be infertility, pregnancy via surrogate or gestational carrier or motherhood after 35 ― something along those lines.