After training for 15 years to become a Maternal-Fetal Medicine Specialist, I found myself 34 with no prospects for a long-term relationship and one year away from being the dreaded “advanced maternal age” — that age for a woman when her risk of having a baby with genetic abnormalities (i.e. Down syndrome) starts to increase.
Having gone through many cycles of IVF, I can say that whether its one cycle or five, stress, fear and worry can creep in and affect an otherwise stable, healthy relationship. Over the past two years I have come to know my husband in a very different way. Sometimes he knows how to help me and sometimes he doesn’t…
Moderate exercise before pregnancy is associated with many positive outcomes for mom and baby, including a boost in fertility rates, less pain while pregnant andlower weight gains during pregnancy. And women whose weight is in a healthy range before pregnancy actually help to lower the risk of serious complications in their baby, with decreased risk of neural-tube or heart defects, among others.
When discussing my situation with other black women, we all had almost the same experience. The experience of no one to talk to, shame, depression, and anxiety. We all knew of a handful of people who never had children, but never knew why. We all knew that there was an unspoken rule about infertility and that it was never to be talked about. I honestly think that in order to break the silence and no longer make infertility a taboo subject in the black community, we need to have raw and gritty conversations amongst ourselves