hinking back to that super-uncomfortable “birds and the bees” conversation you likely had when you were younger, it was very clear that it takes a sperm and an egg to create a baby. Yet when couples are trying to conceive unsuccessfully, often the “cause” is assumed to be due to the female partner. The assumption is magnified if the woman is considered to be in the category of advanced maternal age. If we all know that “it takes two to tango”, then why is there so much focus on woman’s nutrition and lifestyle when trying to conceive and not the man’s?
In just one generation we moved from childbearing in our 20s to having the kids in our late 30s or even early 40s. And this change has resulted in more women having difficulty building their ideal families. Did you know that by 40, more than 50% of women have difficulty conceiving? It’s just one more thing in the long list of gender inequities, that men make new sperm every day, but women are born with all of their eggs.
Reproduction is a simple concept and one that ensures the human race continues to flourish. But the taboos surrounding sex and the reluctancy of many to emphasize sex education, means many young men and women learn about the birds and the bees from the playground. This is as true now as it’s always been, even though we’re living in an age where fact-checking is always just a Google search away. This causes many problems, as well as some very bizarre myths that are believed by millions of adult Americans.
We started to interview “AMA” moms and kept interviewing them until the stories repeated. We drew out the themes and learned so much about this trend. I do mean literal trend—the only group in the USA, Canada, and most of Western Europe showing population growth are women over 35.
Like many women, I led a fit and healthy lifestyle, spent my twenties exploring the world, focused on my career and waited to find ‘Mr Right’. During this time, I wasn’t too concerned with starting a family. Getting pregnant is supposed to be one of the most natural things for a woman, so I figured it would happen when I was ready.