First of all, I hate that coined phrase, “getting your body back”. Ladies, lets take some time to fully appreciate just what has gone happened in the last 10-12 months of your lives. Your body has stretched, your hormones have taken you for a ride and you are left looking at your body like….Now what??
In this “over 35 “ club, we can all agree there is no shortage of challenges. We face judgment, guilt, and difficulty finding acceptance at times. Why? Three words: Advanced Maternal Age.
To love is to grieve. When a baby dies, all hope is lost…it feels unnatural to outlive your baby. You may experience excruciating pain, anger, guilt, and depression, but we must remember to move through those feelings. When we refuse to go through and release these emotions it manifests in our physical being. We carry the trauma in the tissues of our bodies and within our womb. The sooner we breathe into this pain, the sooner we emerge.
Younger mothers can question how many children they want and have time on their side if they choose to wait several years for another child. When you are a mature mother the choice really isn’t yours; biology often is the deciding factor. Do you give yourself a year to try and conceive again? Two years? Should I have decided sooner when my body was still predictable?
The postpartum period places women at an increased risk for blood clots due to the hormonal and physiologic changes that occur. Additionally, some estrogen-containing contraceptive methods can diminish breast milk supply during the immediate postpartum period, thus further limiting contraceptive options.