Regaining Body Confidence and Control After Childbirth


As beautiful, miraculous, and amazing as childbirth can be, delivering a baby can certainly take its toll on a mother’s body. Considering that a vagina is roughly the size of an elongated lemon, it’s no surprise that some women experience drastic changes with their bodies after giving birth.

For some, these changes never really go away, leading to incontinence, unsatisfying sexual intercourse, and general vaginal disfigurement. A lifetime spent with these issues can cause many women to feel insecure and ashamed of their bodies, and in turn negatively affecting their self-confidence. However, there are exercises, procedures, and positive reinforcements that can have a positive impact on the negative effects of childbirth and help women regain their body positivity and sex drive they’ve been missing.

The Side Effects Of Childbirth

Prior to delivery, doctors will often discuss with their patients that childbirth may result in tearing of the perineum, labia, or vaginal sidewalls. For some women, having a vaginal birth stretches their pelvic muscles in such a way that it’s difficult for them to ever regain their original strength and structure.

One concern with having stretched pelvic muscles is that it makes it difficult for women to delay urination. It’s not uncommon for mothers to experience a few accidents or leaks after a natural birth, particularly when sneezing, coughing, or laughing. However, this can greatly inhibit a woman’s daily life, with her developing fears about being too far from the nearest restroom or accidentally leaking in public.

Another symptom of an altered vaginal vault is a lack of sensation during intercourse, leaving women unfulfilled sexually and potentially leading to a general reduction in sexual desire overall. This is due to the increased width of the vagina combined with a lack of muscle contraction and control. Additionally, many women become self-conscious about their vaginal, perineal and labial shape and appearance, further affecting their overall confidence.

Do Your Kegels

One common suggestion physicians offer to strengthen pelvic floor muscles is to perform kegel exercises. The pelvic floor muscles are like a sling that supports the uterus, bladder, small intestine, and rectum. Kegels can be done before, during, and after pregnancy to help the muscles stay strong. In fact, kegel exercises are recommended for all women. To do this exercise, you first need to identify the right muscles by stopping urination midstream. Once you know which muscles they are, you can tighten and relax them by conducting short daily repetitions while sitting or standing.

Despite this method being one of the most popular recommendations for improving pelvic floor muscle strength, it doesn’t always work. Many women report the exercises as not being effective enough to counter the damage caused by multiple natural births. In these instances, surgery is often recommended to restore the original vaginal adult anatomy.

Vaginal Rejuvenation

Vaginal rejuvenation surgery helps thousands of women each year handle the long lasting effects of vaginal childbirth. While many consider this cosmetic surgery, the procedure is done primarily to remedy incontinence. However, there are added bonuses to this treatment. Your cosmetic doctor can also tweak additional features to improve overall vaginal and labial appearance and control.

Vaginal rejuvenation is a laser treatment, meaning that there’s no need to go under the knife, thus eliminating the typical complications and dangers associated with traditional surgeries. Surgeons use materials like sutures to pull the muscles tight during a vaginal reconstruction procedure. It’s important to schedule consultations with a few different doctors until you find the one with whom you feel the most comfortable.

Once the vaginal rejuvenation treatment is completed, you will immediately notice the results. Women report being much more relaxed and secure whenever they feel the urge to urinate, enjoy more satisfying sex, and experience an increased sex drive.

Although giving birth can be a beautiful experience, the natural side effects can cause you to dissatisfied and insecure. Consult with your OB/GYN to understand the best options for you.